Jeffrey R. Holland is a senior church leader in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. In addition, he is the chairman of the executive committee of the church board of commissioners, and a former president of BYU. He recently gave a talk that has since become highly controversial. I'm an alum of BYU, and wanted to discuss more with thoughtful friends. Now, you should note just how tricky a topic this is. It's sensitive and difficult, and I guarantee we didn't handle it perfectly -- but we tried to engage honestly, and that's a start.