It was 2002, and I was sitting in premarital counseling with my fiancé and our pastor. We were a young, idealistic couple, and we were going through a workbook to reveal the expectations we had for each other and our marriage.
One of the questions, I remember, asked if I planned to work outside the home. We were ready. We had already talked about this. I would work until we had kids, we confidently said, and then I was excited to be a stay-at-home mom. We even had a financial plan for this scenario. It was all decided.
Our pastor nodded and said it was good that we were on the same page. Then he paused and gathered his thoughts. “One thing I want you to keep in mind,” he said carefully, “is that it’s okay to change your mind.”
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