Not long ago, a colleague referred a woman to me who asked my help as a psychotherapist to cure her husband. "He is not well, and he makes my life miserable," she said. "Half of the time he is sad and depressed, the other half he is angry and bitter. I cannot bear the man I married. He is awful. He is incapable of giving me pleasure. He is incapable of giving me anything at all. My days end in a bed of tears. Yet I stay with him. I have no idea why." She urged me to take him on as a patient.