So You’ve Been Canceled: A Yom Kippur Atonement Guide

A friend of mine was publicly canceled. He deserved it and he knew it. He spent a year working with a rabbi and a therapist, during which time he tried to track down those he had hurt and apologize to them, often more than once. We can't see inside one another's hearts, but I believe in the sincerity of his change. What I sometimes wonder -- both in my role as a rabbi myself and as a denizen of our broader culture of accountability -- is how my friend, or any one of us, can find a path back from shame to acceptance.