Amidst the current debates and conflict around Planned Parenthood funding and what does or does not happen to fetal tissue, the takeaway from this particular culture war (a phrase I hate, but that’s a discussion for another time) is that either you are pro-killing babies or anti-women. My personal position on abortion has changed over time; what once was clearly black or white has become gray. As I have mourned with friends and family members who have miscarried and supported those who have opted to medically terminate their pregnancies, my once-firm beliefs have shifted.