Something your pastor or a church staff member has done has set you off. You canâ??t believe he or she had the audacity to do (or not do) or say (or not say) such a thing. Before shipping off a hot email or making an accusatory comment in person or taking to the telephone to hash it over with someone else, take a few minutes and consider these bits of counsel collected from the other side of the pew:
Ask yourself whether what youâ??re about to say reflects more on you than on your pastor. A chaplain friend taught me years ago this truth: â??People just canâ??t help telling you their story.â? Often, but not always, our criticisms of others expose our own biases and fears. Do you want to out yourself in this way?
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