Why Spirituality is Sexy But Religion is Not

Most of my Facebook friends are clear about their religious views. They identify as Lutheran, Catholic, or atheist. I also have friends who view their religion as a canvas of self-expression. A friend of mine says he is a "Latter-day Bacchanalian/Dionysian, Pastafarian, Cthulhu Cultist." My cousin tells her online friends, "I'm spiritual, not religious … and I enjoy checking out European cathedrals."

She's not alone. The number of people who self-identify using the long-popular phrase "spiritual but not religious" is still growing. In 1998, 9 percent of American adults told the General Social Survey they were spiritual but not religious. By 2008, it had risen to 14 percent. Among those ages 18 to 39, the increase was even more dramatic, and 18 percent now say they are spiritual but not religious.

The growth is not because people are less likely to identify as religious, but because nonreligious people are more likely to say they are spiritual, says Duke sociologist Mark Chaves.

Part of the phrase's popularity can be attributed to its sex appeal. No, really. A social psychologist at Britain's Southampton University looked at 57 studies covering 15,000 experiment subjects, and reported in Personality and Social Psychology Review that North Americans find "intrinsically religious" people desirable—but that the desirability decreases if people portray themselves as extrinsically religious.

Elaborate dating scheme or not, if you wonder what the phrase means, you'll probably get a different answer from each person you ask. That may be the point.

"Spiritual has, in some sense, come to mean 'my own personal religion with my own individual creed,' " Timothy Paul Jones, a Baptist seminary professor, told the Louisville Courier-Journal.

The word religion comes from the Latin religare (re: "back," and ligare: "to bind"), so the term is associated with being bound. In that sense, defining oneself as "spiritual, not religious" couldn't be more apt, reflecting a desire to not be bound by any rules, community, or belief. Being spiritual but not religious is the perfect fit for people who don't like the demands of religion but aren't quite ready to say they have no soul.

Catholic philosopher Peter Kreeft has noted that our culture's fear "is not the fear of death, as it was for the ancient cultures of Greece and Rome, nor is it the fear of hell," as found in the Christian, Jewish, and Islamic societies of the medieval period. No, the fear of the age "is the fear of meaninglessness itself."

Yet those who oppose organized religion may be missing out on some of the best tools for staving off meaninglessness.

The Pew Forum on Religion and Public Life found that only 5 percent of the religiously unaffiliated attend church weekly or participate weekly in group prayer, and that only 9 percent read Scripture weekly outside of religious services. Yet what are worship, prayer, and study but "spiritual" disciplines that strengthen faith in a mature Christian?

And that's the problem. How different are we from the group that admits it's not religious? We too bristle against the binding demands of our faith. We find it easy to justify not tithing or praying. We disrespect authority, fail to take care of our neighbors in need, and covet the materialism of the world. We barely qualify as spiritual or religious.

In the Gospel of John, Jesus calls the Holy Spirit the "Spirit of truth." True spirituality is not an emotion, experience, or set of behaviors, but rests on the truth found in the Scriptures. That Word of God, that truth, that Spirit is what we are bound to as Christians.

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Larry Colyar

People who often say they are spiritual and not religious sometime point to the hugh discrepancy between what the church says and what it does. They resent and do not accept the manipulation attempted by many religious people. They object to and do not accept what "religious" people when they say that in order to receive God's love and forgiveness, you have to believe a certain way, or practice a certain ceremony, or be heterosexual, or be against evolution, or against Islam, or vote in certain ways, or . . . the list goes on and on. The Apostle Paul speaks of finding freedom in the Spirit and being renewed through the transformation of one's mind. Maybe those who claim to be spiritual rather than religious are just trying to escape from the rules and politics along with the manipulation of people in the modern church. Maybe these spiritual ones are just exercising the freedom that Paul talked about.

Term is too vague.

Well you know there are evil spirits and there are good spirits, so saying you are "spiritual" does not really mean anything.

Howard Pepper

Good article. It should be noted that considering oneself "spiritual but not religious" is not just trendy or new in the US or elsewhere. People who comment based just on an impression or limited exposure to their own friends or popular media should first read a substantive study of the issue such as "Spiritual but not Religious" by Robert Fuller. Though a few years old now, already it showed that there is indeed something of substance in developments that seem only to be accelerating, and I see as basically positive. People I observe using this label seem to be no more self-centered than their Christian peers, and comparably following of spiritual "disciplines," though they might use different terms for that. They seem to significantly express the "fruits of the Spirit." That seems to be because the Holy Spirit is accessed and incorporated from many vantage points, in many ways, not all of them tied to New Testament "orthodox" doctrine... maybe that's not required!

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